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Adulting is Hard and it’s Really Frustrating
Children don’t make us lose our temper. We lose our temper. Adulting is hard sometimes. Okay, a lot of the time! With all that we have coming at us, it makes sense that we would look outside of ourselves to see what’s obviously not working and then use that to explain our ‘short’ temper. On […]
Caring is the Magic Ingredient
Comforting a crying child isn’t spoiling them, it’s meeting the need that moved them to tears by showing you care. I’m quite sure that every parent on the planet has been in the presence of a child who is having their tears over something they’ve repeatedly been cautioned not do. In the midst of these […]
Slow Down and LISTEN
Children don’t need a good talking to nearly as much as they need a good listening to. Whenever we come at children with the intention of getting them to listen, we usually bring with us an intense energy of insistence. Although we do so with the purpose of teaching them, more often than we realize […]
Raising Independent Children
Just because a child is capable of doing something doesn’t mean they should always have to. Watching children become more capable and independent typically stirs up mixed feelings inside of parents. While it’s certainly gratifying to observe them doing things for themselves, there may also be a hint of sadness watching them grow up in […]
The Are NO ‘Bad Kids’
“In my world there are no ‘bad’ kids, but there are plenty of misunderstood children. That’s our doing, not theirs” – BM Every now and again I get asked by someone why it is that I always think the child is right and the parent is always in the wrong. Short answer – I don’t. […]
Young Children are Perfectly Immature.
In a world that seems obsessed with saying and doing the ‘right’ thing, some people stop saying anything for fear of inadvertently getting it ‘wrong’.Those who do speak up may focus so hard on trying to be ‘correct’ and to ‘please everyone’ their message gets lost in delivery. Of course there are certain words that […]
Rewards Do Much More than You May Realize.
“Rewarding children for ‘good’ behaviour may appear to work in the short term but don’t rely too heavily on using them as they won’t always be there and neither will you.” – BM Perhaps you haven’t thought about it in this way before… * Rewards can successfully shape behaviour for the better (no argument there) […]
Don’t cry…
“When we say the words, “Don’t cry” to an upset child (or anyone), they might get the message, “Don’t feel”. That’s not good for their healthy emotional development.” – BM Although we usually mean well when telling a child (or anyone) not to cry, our doing so often discourages them from feeling the sadness, loss, […]
Be like a sunflower.
“Be like a sunflower. When interactions with your children get heated, turn towards them instead of turning away.” – Bridgett Miller When children ‘act out’ or ‘misbehave’ it’s usually because they need our attention or our guidance, or both. 🌻As a tired, worn out parent there will always be times when it’s tempting to look the […]
We need to ‘get’ them…
“Young children aren’t out to get us, we need to ‘get them.’ A shift in perspective is what we need if we are to see children as the innocent beings they are. If we can do that, it can make our connection with them even stronger.” – Bridgett Miller Much of the stress and conflict […]
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