“In my world there are no ‘bad’ kids, but there are plenty of misunderstood children. That’s our doing, not theirs” – BM Every now and again I get asked by someone why it is that I always think the child is right and the parent is always in the wrong. Short answer – I don’t. […]
In a world that seems obsessed with saying and doing the ‘right’ thing, some people stop saying anything for fear of inadvertently getting it ‘wrong’.Those who do speak up may focus so hard on trying to be ‘correct’ and to ‘please everyone’ their message gets lost in delivery. Of course there are certain words that […]
“Rewarding children for ‘good’ behaviour may appear to work in the short term but don’t rely too heavily on using them as they won’t always be there and neither will you.” – Bridgett Miller Perhaps you haven’t thought about it in this way before… * Rewards can successfully shape behaviour for the better (no argument […]
“When we say the words, “Don’t cry” to an upset child (or anyone), they might get the message, “Don’t feel”. That’s not good for their healthy emotional development.” – Bridgett Miller Although we usually mean well when telling a child (or anyone) not to cry, our doing so often discourages them from feeling the sadness, […]
“Be like a sunflower. When interactions with your children get heated, turn towards them instead of turning away.” – Bridgett Miller When children ‘act out’ or ‘misbehave’ it’s usually because they need our attention or our guidance, or both. 🌻As a tired, worn out parent there will always be times when it’s tempting to look the […]
“Young children aren’t out to get us, we need to ‘get them.’ A shift in perspective is what we need if we are to see children as the innocent beings they are. If we can do that, it can make our connection with them even stronger.” – Bridgett Miller Much of the stress and conflict […]
So many parents are worried because their children are not currently attending school and will miss out on learning. Take comfort in knowing that true learning happens best when children are feeling at rest in their relationships and are given the freedom and time to play.
As we hunker down in our homes, our frustration is going to rise. Our patience will be tested, and if we are to get through the coming weeks without dumping our frustration onto our children, we need to understand a little about what’s going on emotionally inside of ourselves.
As we head into an extended time of being at home, it’s going to take some adjustment. For most of us, it’s a BIG adjustment, and particularly so for parents who are responsible for keeping their children entertained for who knows how loooooong.